How do we have a healthy self-esteem without going over the top and having a massive hubris hangover of self-importance?!
What I have learnt is that when my view of myself is not healthy it is because I am not viewing myself correctly.
Comparison is often at the root.
Comparison to others… the opportunity is constantly there – at our work, in our play, on the media… we are not short of occasions to compare.
I believe it is one of the most sinister challenges of this era. No longer are we just comparing ourselves to the people in our little village or town; we are compare ourselves to everyone, everywhere, on a device in the palm of our hands… photos and messages that can send us in a spin of judgement and appraisal.
The messages are relentlessly telling us we are not rich enough, not good looking enough, don’t have enough, don’t have a partner, kids, work, friends, holidays, homes… like theirs!
… and the list goes on.
Social media is regularly challenging our fears of:
- what are we missing out on?
- what don’t we have?
- where we’ve gone wrong?
- and how inadequate we are?
Please give yourself some breaks…
and take into account:
- what you have done
- the wonderful experiences
- who is in your life
- the talents and opportunities you have
- and where we live…
…we have won the lottery. We live in Australia. There is no war, I can turn the tap on and drink clean water. I have a flushable toilet!
Let’s start with this perspective.
A healthy self-esteem is grounded in gratefulness, not comparison as we bring our best.