Comparison is the Root 1

How do we have a healthy self-esteem without going over the top and having a massive hubris hangover of self-importance?!

What I have learnt is that when my view of myself is not healthy it is because I am not viewing myself correctly.

Comparison is often at the root.

Comparison to others… the opportunity is constantly there – at our work, in our play, on the media… we are not short of occasions to compare.

I believe it is one of the most sinister challenges of this era.  No longer are we just comparing ourselves to the people in our little village or town; we are compare ourselves to everyone, everywhere, on a device in the palm of our hands… photos and messages that can send us in a spin of judgement and appraisal.

The messages are relentlessly telling us we are not rich enough, not good looking enough, don’t have enough, don’t have a partner, kids, work, friends, holidays, homes… like theirs!

… and the list goes on.

Social media is regularly challenging our fears of:

  • what are we missing out on?
  • what don’t we have?
  • where we’ve gone wrong?
  • and how inadequate we are?

Please give yourself some breaks…

and take into account:

  • what you have done
  • the wonderful experiences
  • who is in your life
  • the talents and opportunities you have
  • and where we live…

…we have won the lottery. We live in Australia.  There is no war, I can turn the tap on and drink clean water. I have a flushable toilet!

Let’s start with this perspective.

A healthy self-esteem is grounded in gratefulness, not comparison as we bring our best.

No Regrets

About Penny

Penny was born in England, raised in New Zealand, lived in America and settled in Perth, Australia. Together with her husband Mark, she is raising a teenage daughter and has twin twenty-something sons. "Coming home at the end of a solid working day to family and friends is my delight" says Penny, Co-author of the book – She’s Not Your Competition. She is a heart-felt communicator who believes in the power of a person’s story. Penny has over 25 years experience as a high level leader and spokesperson in both the private and non-profit sectors with significant public relations experience. She is currently the CEO of South Coastal Women's Health Services, and prior on the Leadership Teams of Rise Network and Riverview supporting people in areas of mental health, domestic and family violence, and children overseas at risk of exploitation. She holds an MBA and MBL, and is a Board Director for the Youth Affairs Council of Western Australia. For the past 15 years she has provided pro-bono support as a mentor for leaders and consultant to not for profits. Penny’s personal life endeavour is a determination to "make life better not bitter".

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  • Maxine Franklin

    So true. I have watched a daughter nearly be destroyed by comparison. Accepting the praise and positive comments from those we love and trust can go along way in helping overcome the need to compare. We are all wonderfully made and in Gods image. We women need to be more accepting and loving of ourselves because there are so many pressures to be something else. Very grateful God loves me as I am.

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