Maya Angelou said, ‘People will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.’
I neglect this message sometimes because I love doing things with and for people.
What this message says and what I know though, is what is important for people is for me to ‘turn up’ for them.
‘Turning up’ is not just about being in the same room with a person but being fully present. People feel it when we are not present; our eyes wander, we fidget and give a vibe that we have better places to be as we check our phone for a message from someone else!
‘Turning up’ for people begins with a decision to be engaged and where possible, preparing ourselves ahead of time.
If I’m caught on the hop by someone, I’ve learnt to be honest and say, “I’ve got to be somewhere in 15 minutes, but right now you have my attention.” “What can I help you with?”
We are saying, “I see you” and when we are tempted by thoughts that take us away from being present; perhaps wandering back to the past, or venturing to the future, let’s choose to bring them back to the person before us right now.
People will never forget how you made them feel.