Who is influencing you? 1

We are influenced by those we hang around with and they can prove to be either helpful or unhelpful.

Some people claim they don’t change for anyone; I’m independent and no one’s going to change me.  The other end of the spectrum is the chameleon who adapts too quickly and flips and flops to everyone else’s expectations, and there is no sense of personal identity and values. We don’t want to be too rigid or a pushover. There is a balance here.

Surely, we don’t want fit into any culture without even thinking about it and thinking involves evaluating.

Let’s not be naïve and  just walk into relationships, friendships and settings and adopt all the thoughts and behaviours without evaluation. Be wise and learn to sift and weigh what we see, hear and observe.

Some of the positive, helpful people who have come into my life have brought immense riches. There have been some who have taught me how I do not want to behave and respond to life, but I don’t hang around there. Hold onto the good and ignore the bad.

Who we hang around with influences us.

No Regrets


About Penny

Penny was born in England, raised in New Zealand, lived in America and settled in Perth, Australia. Together with her husband Mark, she is raising a teenage daughter and has twin twenty-something sons. "Coming home at the end of a solid working day to family and friends is my delight" says Penny, Co-author of the book – She’s Not Your Competition. She is a heart-felt communicator who believes in the power of a person’s story. Penny has over 25 years experience as a high level leader and spokesperson in both the private and non-profit sectors with significant public relations experience. She is currently the CEO of South Coastal Women's Health Services, and prior on the Leadership Teams of Rise Network and Riverview supporting people in areas of mental health, domestic and family violence, and children overseas at risk of exploitation. She holds an MBA and MBL, and is a Board Director for the Youth Affairs Council of Western Australia. For the past 15 years she has provided pro-bono support as a mentor for leaders and consultant to not for profits. Penny’s personal life endeavour is a determination to "make life better not bitter".

One thought on “Who is influencing you?

  • Elaine Fraser

    Interesting thoughts, Penny. I often find myself adapting in situations and over the years this has had some positive outcomes and some negative.

    However, as I grow older I find that my core knows who she is. She stays the course and only adapts when she thinks change is necessary.

    Surrounding yourself with people you want to hold onto because they bring out, and accept, your best is gold.

    Thanks for sharing. Xx

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