Five questions to ask ourselves when we are struggling to decipher what we believe.


I refuse to accept the view that mankind is so tragically bound to the starless midnight of racism and war that the bright daybreak of peace and brotherhood can never become a reality… I believe that unarmed truth and unconditional love will have the final word. Martin Luther King, Jr.

When quotes from amazing inspirations from our past like Martin Luther King and Rosa Parks flood my social feed, I am momentarily filled with the inspiration  “I want to make a difference”

Then I return to my life filled with unmet expectations, confusing seasons of transition and moments where I question absolutely everything.

Have you ever asked yourself the question: “what do I actually believe?”

Has life circumstances left you reeling and you ask yourself this “what even is my life about?”

Recently I was sitting in a meeting with an amazing woman of courage and she talked about five questions we each need to ask ourselves to find our personal mission and purpose.

As I sat there listening, I realised they were very simple questions, ones that I had heard a thousand times, but it was something about that session, in my season, that the penny dropped.

I have heard these questions before, but have I actually taken the time to sit and truly answer them about my life.

Who Am I?

This is the funniest question, but can you answer quickly and confidently who you are? What if you wrote a one sentence answer to this.

“Hi, my name is Amanda…” So difficult, but so defining.

What do you do?

This once again can be difficult to answer with courage, but if the answer is not what we wish we were doing, we are the ones who can change this.

Who for?

Who are the tribe, the people, the village that you are focused on bringing your finest work to? Once again, if the answer is not the one you are hoping for, why not work towards changing your story?

What do these people want or need?

The people that you are focussing your contribution and life’s work towards. what is it that they actually need? Not what you are doing out of urgency or habit, what do they actually need to grow and change into their finest selves?

What is the outcome?

At the end of the day, what is the absolute end goal for these people that you are giving your heart and life toward?

As you answer these questions.

  • You will quickly and clearly begin to see what you believe about yourself.
  • You will bring clarity to the negative beliefs that are holding you captive for your voice and future.
  • You will see what you believe about others and their impact on your life and purpose.

What a profound exercise of courage!

I also have another set of questions that unpack your transition between last year and the new year. They are available to download here.

Thanks for your time and walking through a quick assessment of your beliefs with me. I’d love to spend more time with you over on my social media forums.

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Amanda Marie


About Amanda

Amanda Viviers has published ten books and is a presenter on radio across New Zealand and Australia. She is also the co-founder of Kinwomen; a network created to inspire women to start conversations that matter. Head of Narrative for Compassion Australia, she is driven by a passion for social justice, she loves supporting projects for women in developing countries. Teaching women to live creative lives, beyond the circumstances, is something she pursues daily. Wife of Charl and Mum of Maximus and Liberty, she lives a creative life, longing to see people live inspired. Pinterest/ Twitter/ @Mandaviviers Instagram: @amandaviviers Facebook: @amandaviviersperth