Fitting in Versus Belonging 1

Our phones have become a new platform for us to climb ladders and declare our worth and success. It’s easy to say; I don’t care about how many followers I have on social media, until we do.

It’s a currency in our cultural day and age. One, which I am sure, we look back upon and wonder about the damage it has done to our sense of self.

Our identity is based in our sense of belonging.

Many believe that it is based in the way we understand who we are, but the formation of our identity always is based in our understanding of where we belong.

Then enters technology and the age of platforms.

Little counters in our pockets that ding notifications each hour, reinforcing our sense of belonging and worth. Always desiring to fit into culture, rather than give effort and energy to relationships in our everyday.

Fitting in says, “I have to change in order to be enough!”

Belonging says, “How can I create community where I am accepted?”

Fitting in says, “I have to be perfect to be accepted!”

Belonging says, “How can I be my true self?”

Fitting in says, “I have to follow trends to be acceptable!”

Belonging says, “How can I find connection today?”

You were born to belong not fit it.

Amanda Viviers

Let’s together make a commitment to change the way we consume technology, stop climbing online ladders and build community together.

About Amanda

Amanda Viviers has published ten books and is a presenter on radio across New Zealand and Australia. She is also the co-founder of Kinwomen; a network created to inspire women to start conversations that matter. Head of Narrative for Compassion Australia, she is driven by a passion for social justice, she loves supporting projects for women in developing countries. Teaching women to live creative lives, beyond the circumstances, is something she pursues daily. Wife of Charl and Mum of Maximus and Liberty, she lives a creative life, longing to see people live inspired. Pinterest/ Twitter/ @Mandaviviers Instagram: @amandaviviers Facebook: @amandaviviersperth

One thought on “Fitting in Versus Belonging

  • Teresa Jacobson

    Love this short but sweet rendition of social media and devices we hold so ‘dear’ in our lives today. We often forget to be present with the here and now because of the beeping, ringing, dinging constantly demanding our attention. We need to start to give our attention to the people beside and with us! After all once you are gone they are the ones that will remember the attention you gave them, not your ‘fan base’ on social media.

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