Remembering who we were



It is interesting to read and reflect on areas of change needed in our lives. Patterns and habits, vulnerabilities and strengths. But self-improvement isn’t always about becoming something new. I’ve learned some valuable lessons in 2020 whilst training to complete a 10 kilometre run.

First of all, everything is a work in process. You walk before you run and you run very slowly, just turning the legs over, before you hit your stride.

Then recently I knew I had made real headway. I completed a 4.5kms run for the first time in more than thirty years. It wasn’t easy but as I came into the home straight, I recognised that my body remembered how this felt; and my brain knew it had been here before. It wasn’t uncharted territory.

I had running memory.

It made me think of this quote, “She remembered who she was – and the game changed”.

In an era when people continue to “look for themselves” in a new form or composition, I wonder at the wisdom of looking back. Remembering who we were and joining that with the best of what we’ve become. It’s a game changer.


About Kelley

Kelley is a speaker, author, overseas aid worker and perpetual student. She is passionate about women and gender issues, both in the local and international context, which underpins her enthusiasm for kinwomen and its contribution to women ‘living their finest life’. In 2014 Kelley completed a Masters in International and Community Development before establishing The Foxglove Project. Foxglove is a registered charity focused on supporting international development projects that are sustainable and driven by indigenous leadership. Kelley’s paid work requires her to travel extensively to evaluate and support projects supported by Australian funds. This experience and networking enables Foxglove to partner with outstanding overseas agencies delivering real opportunities for the poor and vulnerable to lead independent self-determined lives. Kelley combines these passions with a love of family and faith. Across more than 30 years of marriage, Kelley and her husband have worked through many of the challenges of building a relationship while raising three sons. Their boys have now finished high school changing the dynamics of family life and relationships. One of her great joys is sharing parenting lessons and learning from good and bad (sometimes disastrous) experiences. She uses humour and common sense to talk about the everyday challenges facing parents in today’s context.