I don’t know about you, but there have been many times when an issue has arisen in me that has really caused some angst.
I tell myself, ‘It will be okay,’ ‘It’s not a big issue,’ ‘It will sort itself out,’ which is sometimes true but often not, because the issue and internal stress is still there.
It’s a pretendee calm and peace.
True calm and peace comes after we resolve the actual distress and dis-ease.
I can bury it and create a false calm but it doesn’t last because the issue I’ve suppressed will actually rear its ugly head again. Like a troll under the bridge, it just pops up again.
True calm, long-lasting calm, comes after I have taken time to listen to what’s going on within. Being honest and open, wrestling and working to resolve the issues which are causing the dis-ease. Only then am I calm because the tension has been relieved.
Let’s not settle for the pretendee calm, because we are really fooling ourselves.
This makes a lot of sense, Penny. Pretend calm is something I practice often but it’s not healthy. I’m learning to develop long-lasting calm as you’ve described here. Well done. Great post. 😊