No Apologies

Sorry seems to be the hardest word. But it shouldn’t be so. It can be a word that comes swiftly when we’ve hurt another person, been misunderstood, insensitive or just earnest without filters. It’s a word that needs to come easily if we are to build deep seated friendships, relationships and communities.

But there are times to recognise when an apology is not necessary, not warranted and even, not appropriate.

We do not need apologise for who we are, where we come from, how we feel. Not our brokenness, our strengths, our preferences or aversions.

Many of us have a friend who apologises whenever a situation gets difficult or once they sense tension. As if they can usher away the conflict in a room. Even at their own expense.

But our personal integrity and building of self requires that at times, we hold our ground. No need for fanfare or beating our breast. But with a quiet strength and assurance that this is who I am and this is more than enough.

No apologies.

About Kelley

Kelley is a speaker, author, overseas aid worker and perpetual student. She is passionate about women and gender issues, both in the local and international context, which underpins her enthusiasm for kinwomen and its contribution to women ‘living their finest life’. In 2014 Kelley completed a Masters in International and Community Development before establishing The Foxglove Project. Foxglove is a registered charity focused on supporting international development projects that are sustainable and driven by indigenous leadership. Kelley’s paid work requires her to travel extensively to evaluate and support projects supported by Australian funds. This experience and networking enables Foxglove to partner with outstanding overseas agencies delivering real opportunities for the poor and vulnerable to lead independent self-determined lives. Kelley combines these passions with a love of family and faith. Across more than 30 years of marriage, Kelley and her husband have worked through many of the challenges of building a relationship while raising three sons. Their boys have now finished high school changing the dynamics of family life and relationships. One of her great joys is sharing parenting lessons and learning from good and bad (sometimes disastrous) experiences. She uses humour and common sense to talk about the everyday challenges facing parents in today’s context.