Holding hands…a reminder you are not alone 1

I don’t remember being too keen on ‘holding hands’ as a child or even a girl. I liked being independent. Self-sufficient. Perfectly capable.

But I think it’s because I never quite understood the beauty of relying on another person. The wonder of knowing that if one of you stumbled, the other person could catch your fall.

And for me, this lesson came with the arrival of children. For their first steps, they held my hand tightly. They needed the strengthening and steadiness of a mother’s hand to get to their feet and hold their balance. But then came the search for independence and making their own way. They would push my hand aside and grumpily remind me, “I can do it myself”.

I would look on patiently. Waiting for the fall or misdirection or obstacle they could not get over. Then move in quietly, offer my hand and off we go again.

Holding hands is a reminder that you are not alone. It may be a reassurance of value and love. But it also tells the other person, you have my strength, hope and steadiness. Together we can face the most difficult of situations

About Kelley

Kelley is a speaker, author, overseas aid worker and perpetual student. She is passionate about women and gender issues, both in the local and international context, which underpins her enthusiasm for kinwomen and its contribution to women ‘living their finest life’. In 2014 Kelley completed a Masters in International and Community Development before establishing The Foxglove Project. Foxglove is a registered charity focused on supporting international development projects that are sustainable and driven by indigenous leadership. Kelley’s paid work requires her to travel extensively to evaluate and support projects supported by Australian funds. This experience and networking enables Foxglove to partner with outstanding overseas agencies delivering real opportunities for the poor and vulnerable to lead independent self-determined lives. Kelley combines these passions with a love of family and faith. Across more than 30 years of marriage, Kelley and her husband have worked through many of the challenges of building a relationship while raising three sons. Their boys have now finished high school changing the dynamics of family life and relationships. One of her great joys is sharing parenting lessons and learning from good and bad (sometimes disastrous) experiences. She uses humour and common sense to talk about the everyday challenges facing parents in today’s context.

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  • Elaine Fraser

    You’ve described how I feel so well! This is beautiful. I miss those tiny hands, but when they need you they come back. Even if it’s only for a moment, holding hands says so much. Xxx

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