Embracing flaws 2



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“You are enough. A thousand times enough.”

– Atticus

If I was to write a list of my flaws, it would look something like this:

  • Too shy
  • Too task focused
  • Too needy
  • Not fit enough
  • Too serious
  • Not intellectual enough
  • Too analytical
  • Terrible at telling jokes (awkward silence)

When did I ever get the idea that I was either too much or not enough?

“You Are Enough” – it’s all over the internet at the moment but I’ve always struggled with this phrase. ‘Enough’ seems like such a small amount. I want to be over and above – more than Enough. But when I looked into what Enough actually means, I was astounded.

Enough

[ih-nuhf]

(a) in a quantity or degree that

answers a purpose or satisfies

a need or desire; sufficiently.

Enough: in a quantity or degree that answers a purpose or satisfies a need or desire; sufficiently. Enough doesn’t mean, just enough to get by. It means sufficiently, satisfied. It means answering a purpose – sufficiently.

So if I’m Enough, if I’m sufficiently answering a purpose, satisfying a need or desire – where do my flaws belong?

What if my list of ‘flaws’ looked like this:

  • I’m shy, so I often look for someone else who’s feeling shy and left out – and approach them with a friendly “hello”. I prefer one-on-one chats anyway.
  • I’m task focused, so I get a lot done.
  • I’m quite emotional and can be sensitive, so I’m able to see when others are feeling upset or emotional. It gives me an opportunity to empathise with them and do what I can to support them.
  • I struggle to exercise and eat well – that’s cool, I have a lot on my plate (ha!) and I’m making gradual improvements. Everything counts!
  • I’m quite serious which means I’ve had some great conversations with people about really interesting (and sometimes personal) subjects.
  • I’m more creative than intellectual and I love this about myself.
  • I think deeply and have gained a lot of insight by doing this (it helps with those conversations too!).
  • I’m terrible at making jokes. Ah well, I’m good at laughing at myself!

Can I encourage you to take a re-look at your ‘flaws’? Take a good, honest look at them; write them down, embrace them. We all have things we’re working on but once we embrace our ‘flaws’ and see them in a different light, they’re not nearly so flawed. Maybe they’re even ‘flawesome’?! (there goes a bad joke! – see, embracing my ‘flaws’!)

Let’s love our whole selves as we rethink the way we look at ourselves.

Cheering you on as you embrace your ‘flaws’,

Joni x


About Joni Leimgruber

Joni lives just outside Sydney in the beautiful Hawkesbury region with her three children. Having journeyed through depression, marriage breakdown and some of the other curve balls life can throw, she is passionate about cheering others on and encouraging them to embrace themselves and their story. She is terrible at telling jokes and regularly comes down with foot-in-mouth disease while blushing profusely. Joni writes to encourage other single mums on Instagram at @singlemumsthriving.

2 thoughts on “Embracing flaws

  • Mish

    such a beautiful way to flip those flaws into strengths. There’s so much power in owning, serving and embracing our strengths. such a great reminder.

  • Mabelle

    Thank you Joni , such a great way to look at our flaws , we all have them but to own them & see how they can be used for good can make all the difference !
    Will apply this to my flaws & see what happens !!

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