To Feel Deeply



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“Everyone says love hurts, but that is not true. Loneliness hurts. Rejection hurts. Losing someone hurts. Envy hurts. Everyone gets these things confused with love but in reality, love is the only thing in the world that covers up all the pain and makes someone feel wonderful again.”

Liam Neeson

To FEEL DEEPLY is to risk greatly. It’s true. It is so much safer to keep relationships, dreams and passions a little removed. A discrete distance from the heart.

But for most of us, this is not possible. Just when you think you’ve got it figured out. Your emotions reveal the opposite. You find you’re in way over your head.

We have discovered this on the arrival of children, a new romance, a new friendship. We stand back and say, ‘I love you. I love you deeply”. And almost immediately we wish we had never uttered those words.

Yet it is these deepest connections and even the experiences of deep loss that make us human. The impact on our own growth and learning. And in our brokenness, affirm our compassion and empathy for others.

Perhaps this is why Liam Neeson said these words:

“Everyone says love hurts, but that is not true. Loneliness hurts. Rejection hurts. Losing someone hurts. Envy hurts. Everyone gets these things confused with love but in reality, love is the only thing in the world that covers up all the pain and makes someone feel wonderful again.”

Kelley Chisholm


About Kelley

Kelley is a speaker, author, overseas aid worker and perpetual student. She is passionate about women and gender issues, both in the local and international context, which underpins her enthusiasm for kinwomen and its contribution to women ‘living their finest life’. In 2014 Kelley completed a Masters in International and Community Development before establishing The Foxglove Project. Foxglove is a registered charity focused on supporting international development projects that are sustainable and driven by indigenous leadership. Kelley’s paid work requires her to travel extensively to evaluate and support projects supported by Australian funds. This experience and networking enables Foxglove to partner with outstanding overseas agencies delivering real opportunities for the poor and vulnerable to lead independent self-determined lives. Kelley combines these passions with a love of family and faith. Across more than 30 years of marriage, Kelley and her husband have worked through many of the challenges of building a relationship while raising three sons. Their boys have now finished high school changing the dynamics of family life and relationships. One of her great joys is sharing parenting lessons and learning from good and bad (sometimes disastrous) experiences. She uses humour and common sense to talk about the everyday challenges facing parents in today’s context.