Potential Parenting Trap – Same, Same!

As we look at parenting this month, I reflect on my now 30 years as a parent of three. As I reflect, I both flinch at the times I feel like I got it quite wrong, and smile at the times I was a bit more cohesive and sensible in my approach!

A glaringly obvious trap I fell into as a mother of twin boys was in their early years dressing them the same. We had sailor suits (quite hilarious!), surfer-dude vibes and my favourite – the ‘cowboy outfits’ complete with gingham shirt and dungarees! I did love it.

The trap here, of course, is seeing them as the same, same.

But the truth was they were the same in looks but different in person, and becoming more different as the days and years passed.

It’s a trap for any parent of multiple children, to parent the same; to celebrate the same school achievements or bring in the cavalry for the under-achievement; to offer the same experiences and opportunities; to expect the same response… 

Instead let’s see, listen to, and treat our children as unique humans who just happen to live under the same roof.

No Regrets


About Penny

Penny was born in England, raised in New Zealand, lived in America and settled in Perth, Australia. Together with her husband Mark, she is raising a teenage daughter and has twin twenty-something sons. "Coming home at the end of a solid working day to family and friends is my delight" says Penny, Co-author of the book – She’s Not Your Competition. She is a heart-felt communicator who believes in the power of a person’s story. Penny has over 25 years experience as a high level leader and spokesperson in both the private and non-profit sectors with significant public relations experience. She is currently the CEO of South Coastal Women's Health Services, and prior on the Leadership Teams of Rise Network and Riverview supporting people in areas of mental health, domestic and family violence, and children overseas at risk of exploitation. She holds an MBA and MBL, and is a Board Director for the Youth Affairs Council of Western Australia. For the past 15 years she has provided pro-bono support as a mentor for leaders and consultant to not for profits. Penny’s personal life endeavour is a determination to "make life better not bitter".