Just ask for help 1



As a Mum of two small kids, I always found it difficult to ask for help.

Even now, when they are a little bit older, I struggle to acknowledge my own tiredness until it is too late.

The vulnerability it takes to show someone else that you cannot do it all is the humility that is required to open to door of weakness to another.

Even though we know we can’t do it all.

Even though we get tired and overwhelmed.

It still takes humility to say the word, “help!”

I have been teaching myself to say yes, when people offer to help me, even in the very small ways.

When my own Mum, says “would you like me to make dinner?” Instead of straight away say “No its okay Mum, I got this.”

I answer simply “Yes, thanks Mum, that would be so helpful.”

If someone asks if I need help to carry groceries to the car, instead of an independent  “No, thanks.” I am learning to say yes graciously.

If someone trusted offers to look after my kids, even for a few little moments so I can sit and rest at the park I say “yes”.

Next time someone offers to help you, even if you maybe don’t think you need their help, what if you tried to answer differently.

Just ask for help.


About Amanda

Amanda Viviers has published ten books and is a presenter on radio across New Zealand and Australia. She is also the co-founder of Kinwomen; a network created to inspire women to start conversations that matter. Head of Narrative for Compassion Australia, she is driven by a passion for social justice, she loves supporting projects for women in developing countries. Teaching women to live creative lives, beyond the circumstances, is something she pursues daily. Wife of Charl and Mum of Maximus and Liberty, she lives a creative life, longing to see people live inspired. Pinterest/ Twitter/ @Mandaviviers Instagram: @amandaviviers Facebook: @amandaviviersperth

One thought on “Just ask for help

Comments are closed.