Daring to ask

What do you ask of others? Can you ask for something from someone else?

Can you ask for help, advice, or resources?

For the most part, many of us struggle to make the ask. We even put excuses into people’s mouths or hands before they have had the opportunity to decide for themselves.

Let’s just save everyone the discomfort and say no before we ask!

But in failing to ask and share, we are at risk of losing far more than is gained.

At a community level, we lose interdependence. Shared responsibility. The synergy and creativity that comes from combining our efforts.

At an individual level, we give up stretching, exploring, discovering our limits and living big expansive lives. Instead, we can live small and set aside the skills of weighing up the options, making choices, saying no.

So next time, you want to say someone else’s ‘no’, press pause. Just step forward and ask with kindness, sincerity and open hands.

The answer may be ‘no’ but the courage for all parties starts in the asking.

About Kelley

Kelley is a speaker, author, overseas aid worker and perpetual student. She is passionate about women and gender issues, both in the local and international context, which underpins her enthusiasm for kinwomen and its contribution to women ‘living their finest life’. In 2014 Kelley completed a Masters in International and Community Development before establishing The Foxglove Project. Foxglove is a registered charity focused on supporting international development projects that are sustainable and driven by indigenous leadership. Kelley’s paid work requires her to travel extensively to evaluate and support projects supported by Australian funds. This experience and networking enables Foxglove to partner with outstanding overseas agencies delivering real opportunities for the poor and vulnerable to lead independent self-determined lives. Kelley combines these passions with a love of family and faith. Across more than 30 years of marriage, Kelley and her husband have worked through many of the challenges of building a relationship while raising three sons. Their boys have now finished high school changing the dynamics of family life and relationships. One of her great joys is sharing parenting lessons and learning from good and bad (sometimes disastrous) experiences. She uses humour and common sense to talk about the everyday challenges facing parents in today’s context.