Connect With the Eyes

Emotional connection is built when eye contact is made.

Penny Webb

Have you considered how screens are taking over the essential connection with our loved ones?

I truly realised this a few years ago when, even though I was in the same room with my teenage daughter, we both had phones in our hands and we were having a sporadic, casual conversation, but there was no eye contact because the screens had the attention of our eyes.

I went into a coffee shop before work the other day and decided not to take my phone to check the news. I sat there waiting for my takeaway long black and observed twelve people also waiting for their coffee – all were on their mobile phones. I thought to myself – boy, if I was in the market for a partner, the lack of opportunity to catch a person’s eye and smile or strike up a conversation was negligible!

The reality is that there is an evidenced decline of eye contact with others because we spend more and more of our time staring at screens which means there is less time to look into people’s eyes – including those we really, really care about.

We stare at computers during our workday, we regularly check our phones, we watch individual movies, series and media on our computers… we are almost super-glued to screens.

What is being drawn from the research is that the reduced eye contact during conversations is negatively affecting our relationships because emotional connection is built when eye contact is made.  So the less eye contact, the less connection.

Note to Me: I absolutely must put the screens away when I am with my girl and my loved ones so I can meet their eyes.

No Regrets


About Penny

Penny was born in England, raised in New Zealand, lived in America and settled in Perth, Australia. Together with her husband Mark, she is raising a teenage daughter and has twin twenty-something sons. "Coming home at the end of a solid working day to family and friends is my delight" says Penny, Co-author of the book – She’s Not Your Competition. She is a heart-felt communicator who believes in the power of a person’s story. Penny has over 25 years experience as a high level leader and spokesperson in both the private and non-profit sectors with significant public relations experience. She is currently the CEO of South Coastal Women's Health Services, and prior on the Leadership Teams of Rise Network and Riverview supporting people in areas of mental health, domestic and family violence, and children overseas at risk of exploitation. She holds an MBA and MBL, and is a Board Director for the Youth Affairs Council of Western Australia. For the past 15 years she has provided pro-bono support as a mentor for leaders and consultant to not for profits. Penny’s personal life endeavour is a determination to "make life better not bitter".