Frank and Fierce

Whether it be with my husband, friends or people I lead, my soul feels most at peace when my relationships are good.

The things that keep me up at night are very rarely things or circumstances – it’s people.

What he said, the tone she used, how he ‘made me’ feel.

I was recently really struggling with something a friend had done and I just couldn’t shake it.

My husband looked at me, “Babes, is this really about what she did or is this about your own fear?” {Burn}

But the truth was he was absolutely right {I hate it when that happens!}

See someone asked me recently what my marriage advice would be {As if after 7 years I have figured it out, right!?}

But my honest opinion: Own your own stuff!

I’m not talking about having an emergency cash account in case it doesn’t work out – ahm, not that stuff!

I’m talking about owning the state of your own heart and soul and the ‘stuff’ that you bring to your relationship.

The truth is for the first 5 years of our marriage any disagreement I had with my husband I was convinced it was him not me {my humility is inspiring, I know}. Turns out, not so much.

Whether it be marriage or friendships – the more I live the more I believe that the ‘frank and fierce’ conversations need to start with me.




How does my own experience contribute to my hurt?

How is what I’m doing contributing to this conflict?

What of my own ‘stuff’ do I need to own right now?

And because I own my own stuff, I can respond and not react.

Soul health. Frank + fierce, darling x

About Karina Chicote

Karina Chicote is a strategic leader for an international child’s rights organisation and writer and presenter on radio for Kin Women. She has a Master’s Degree in Human Rights and has designed and led award-winning programs for Aboriginal children and young people. Karina has worked across the globe on campaigns in London, asylum seeker centres in Papua New Guinea, the UN General Assembly in New York and now leads strategic projects across Western Australia. Karina was a finalist for the WA Youth Work Awards in 2015 and 2016, recognising her leadership and commitment to creating change for the most vulnerable young people in our communities. Above all Karina is a wife to Lance and lover of their Pug Brixton, who amidst the seriousness of changing the world make her laugh, a lot.