Embrace difference, celebrate uniqueness


It wasn’t long after we emerged from the ‘honeymoon’ when I began to tell him some of the things that he could do ‘better’.

He turned to me with a smile, ‘Are you sure you don’t want to marry yourself?’

It’s  true that opposites attract, but how much energy do we then spend trying to create ‘sameness’?

What if we diverted our energy from trying to make our men like us and invested more time embracing his difference and celebrating his uniqueness?

You’re serious, he’s funny – let him make you laugh.

You’re a nester, he’s a dreamer – let him inspire you.

You’re organised, he’s chaotic – let him teach you spontaneity.

We don’t become better women by making men like us. We become better women when we let difference teach, challenge and evolve us.

Embrace his difference, celebrate his uniqueness.

About Karina Chicote

Karina Chicote is a strategic leader for an international child’s rights organisation and writer and presenter on radio for Kin Women. She has a Master’s Degree in Human Rights and has designed and led award-winning programs for Aboriginal children and young people. Karina has worked across the globe on campaigns in London, asylum seeker centres in Papua New Guinea, the UN General Assembly in New York and now leads strategic projects across Western Australia. Karina was a finalist for the WA Youth Work Awards in 2015 and 2016, recognising her leadership and commitment to creating change for the most vulnerable young people in our communities. Above all Karina is a wife to Lance and lover of their Pug Brixton, who amidst the seriousness of changing the world make her laugh, a lot.