My Heart is Confident 2



When your heart speaks, take good notes. 

Judith Campbell

Have you ever been stuck in the middle of decision-making mode? Does your heart ever tell you one thing, while your mind tells you another?

Part of the struggle is that we get to a point in life where the old ways aren’t working, where we question what we’ve been doing and we lose our confidence.

Our intuition, or heart, tries to speak to us, but it is often squashed by the sensible-sounding voice of our logical mind. 

I’m working through a fairly big decision in my writing life at the moment. I’ve gone down a track and feel it’s right, but when things don’t work out the way I expect, I begin to doubt myself and get drawn back to the default of playing it safe. 

Playing it safe looks like defaulting to what I’ve always done. Repeating what worked for me before. Settling for the comfort of known paths. 

While I may look calm and considered on the outside, the wrestle between heart and mind can be a battlefield. On the inside, I’m arguing, ‘Head or heart? Heart or head?’ in ever-dizzying circles.

As I struggle in my head and my heart, I’m learning to be brave. Like Brené Brown says, ‘I’m still not good at surrendering or “living in the question,” but I am getting better. I guess you could say I’ve graduated to “writhing in the question”’.

I’m learning that my intuition, or heart-wide-open thinking, is developing the trust muscle that allows me to listen to my heart while bringing my brain along for the ride. 

At the end of the day, head and heart can’t be separated. Some days, the head wins out. Some days, the heart. But, every day is an interplay between the two. 

In the process, I’m developing heart-centred confidence and this makes me think of faith. Faith in God. Faith in myself. Faith in my intuition. Faith in my mind. 

My heart is confident in you, O God; my heart is confident. Psalm 57:7 New Living Translation (NLT)

I know what I want. 

I know what I need to do. 

Finally, I can say these words and mean it, ‘My heart speaks. My heart is confident’. 


About Elaine Fraser

Elaine realised she wanted to be a writer at ten years of age when the words flew off the page during a creative writing lesson. She studied English and Education at university and went on to spend many years as a high school English teacher teaching others how to write. In 2005, Elaine took the plunge and began writing full-time. Since then she has published five books and blogs at www.elainefraser.co. Elaine’s passion is to write about real issues with a spiritual edge. When she’s not travelling the world in search of quirky bookstores or attending writing retreats in exotic locations, she can be found in the Perth hills sitting in her library—writing, reading, mentoring writers and hugging her golden retriever.

2 thoughts on “My Heart is Confident

  • Steph Kara

    Thanks Elaine! You’ve captured what I’ve been experiencing for months and unfortunately in the process got a little stuck. You’re words have help me today. Steph xx

  • Jo-Anne

    The big, beautiful wrestle of life! Keep following your heart Elaine and I am sure it will keep leading you on wonderful, God-filled adventures. x x

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